Question about conduct of ex during divorce and family proceedings

[ordellrobie]

Hi, representation via legal aid is poor to be honest so to find information like this I come here.

Is it relevant in any way that my husband (stage 2 of divorce/approaching final order of contested child contact) has taken out a loan from my address post-moving out? I know as I opened the mail and it was a missed repayment on a loan that is "active since April" he left before xmas.

It's my house, nothing to do with him. Just wondering if this is worth mentioning at all to my barrister? His image thus far has been 'look at this middle class man with enough money to fight for contact with this child' whereas in reality his amassing of debt and overspending was a big part of the issue?

He's not a wonderful guy with loads of cash to provide for my child. He's an image-obsessed controller who takes out loans from my address to pay for court.

Arguably if you are married it’s not your house . It’s as much his property as yours until the divorce is complete and decides otherwise. Did he ever live there?

Presumably the loan is in his name and is unsecured. If taken out after you split, it’s not part of the divorce. In what why does it impact on you?

You could ask him to redirect his Mail and to stop using the address as his home. See what he says.

@LemonTT Nope, the house is a housing association tenancy that is mine alone.

It doesn't impact me immediately. It shows that he is carrying on his behaviour patterns of getting into heavy debt with no intention to pay it back, as he did in the marriage, and became violent when I pointed it out.

It would probably just be looked as an oversight.
dont be too sure on the house being yours either. I don’t want to scare you but my house was my house, I paid a large deposit and made every payment. Received nominal financial help for the 2.5years marriage and my ex husband lied and those lies cost me £37.5k! Basically half the equity from the value that they had placed on my house. I had to pay it out. He never put anything in. I couldn’t even get extra borrowing for that but thankfully for family I scraped together but still have an extra £25k mortgage to cover. Make sure you get finances in order and get a consent order which isn’t actually required for a divorce to go through. The he said she said doesn’t really matter when all is said and done. It’s just nonsense. What matters is assets. So don’t get caught up in a silly fight, even if they try. Also read the PAG guidance for pensions - arm yourself with information and that will be king!