I have four dcs. 18, 16, 13 and 10. Separated and getting divorced. They're all ticking along ok now he's out of the family home. Lots of psychological assistance for them along the way since he left.
None of them want to see their father because of his violence (mostly towards me) and verbal abuse - towards all of them. He's a scary man who minimises what he's done to us all. He's being prosecuted for the assault on me and we have recordings of his abuse of me and the dcs.
We had agreed to communicate only through solicitors but he keeps emailing me asking to the the dcs. He has their telephone numbers but they've all blocked him. I forward the emails to my solicitor but this incurs yet more expense for me.
Am I ok to just ignore all his emails and not forward them to my solicitor or will I look uncooperative and actively blocking any progress with the dcs in court? And will it make me look bad in the eyes of any judge? He's not applying for custody (yet) and I would seek supervised access here for the younger dcs should they decide they want to see him.
We live in a different country to stbxh and he's U.K. based.
It's tricky to know what is best approach here. I'm not made of money and would rather spend it on securing our futures than on solicitor's fees.