Separation/divorce what am I entitled to?

[Angeldelight21]

So, our marriage broke down and husband is moving out. We will be separated for few months and divorce in the new year.

He is a high earner and currently we don't get taxcredits or child benefits. Can I apply for these during separation or I need to wait until the divorce?

Our DD will stay with me, how will our finances split? Is it always 50%-50%?

Thanks for your help

The more useless you are the more spousal and assets you get.

In general OP should focus on finding a higher paying job or adjust lifestyle instead of depending on somebody else.

How hard can it be when some people seem to manage it while having a full time job?

It is work but not comparable to a real job that would pay someone spousal maintainece
(Not when children are very young)

The most crazy thing is:
Say when you are married you are a team one of you does housework other one pays bills. So divorced one of you still pays bills but the other one doesn't need to do housework anymore for the worker (she/he does it themselves)

How crazy asymmetrical

@Beacon2000 which further adds to the point that many sahp who bleat on about sacrificing a career so need spousal and not to work again never had a career to start with and actually benefit from marriage rather than be disadvantaged by it

When he moves out of the marital home you can inform council tax, that will reduce your council tax by 75%

you can apply for universal credit as they may pay 70% of the cost of child care

you can apply for child benefit as your income is below the threshold

Sorry by 25% not 75%

It they also help their husbands have a career by doing all their laundry and house admin and cooking etc. I'd love to have a 'wife' doing all that for me and my child!

But I very much doubt there are sahps who think they never need work again regardless of the statistically invalid samples described on this board.

And I think there are many married couples out there who felt one sahp was a good idea for their family at least whilst the dcs were small. The contempt on this board for those sahps who are left high and dry in a divorce is really horrible.

Spousal isn't to ensure a sahp can never work again.

It's to help the sahp get back on their feet, reintegrate, get them to their best position employment wise.

I don't understand how it's ok for one earning spouse simply to leave the family home, leave their family high with all the existing bills, expect the sahp or part time working parent to suddenly magic a full time job to cover all the bills and the childcare etc. it's just not on.

And looking after tiny children is hard work.

It’s really not hard work
and usually the imbalance in earnings is compensated for by extra assets therefore to expect both high share of assets and spousal is wrong ( imo)

antway, on 70k the ex hete most likely won’t be expected to pay spousal, but op and ex should try to reach agreement on how the nursery fees are to be paid as they should not all land on op

At least you got rid of your ex

Every cloud has silver lining ☺️

there are and (definitely used to be) meal tickets for life. This is obscene, one person basically becomes a slave for the other person, still paying their bills and going to work daily to grind. While the other person NO LONGER does any house work for the worker but still gets all the benefits.

Bloody hell. The OP works, isn’t a SAHP and hasn’t asked about spousal support.

Perhaps those of you obsessed with arguing could take your fight outside, and leave the OP to get the support she asked for?

Precisely 👏

No one can give you a full answer to that based on the information on this thread. I am a NW based solicitor and we charge a fixed £300 for an initial meeting, at which we can give advice about what settlement to expect. Others do it cheaper and others cost more. "Free" appoontments rarely result in meaningful advice being given.

You are unlikely to qualify for spouse maintenance.

Usually the splitting of finances depends on many factors. There a a few things you should definitely consider as it isn't the same for everyone. See if this might help you so you take everything into consideration - https://iamlip.com/his-money-her-money-our-money-who-do-marital-money-and-assets-belong-to/ the rest of the website might be helpful in general as it takes you through the whole process for free in their help guides. Hope the guide can help with splitting finances properly xxx