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His car is on Google Maps outside her house!!

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youlied · 07/07/2023 13:19

Went through hell with EH. I had to leave due to his parents owning the house.
I had 6 months of shitty behaviour from him where he literally changed overnight. He gaslit me, made out I was paranoid, painted a picture to his family that I was horrendous , got physical and aggressive over everything and all to protect her.
It has been pointed out to me today, that on google maps his car is parked outside her house (she still lives with her parents!)
It feels a relief in some way that my gut feeling wasn't wrong and that his massive shift in behaviour was down to him cheating, but seriously just why not be honest? Why cause me all that pain?
I"ve moved on am much happier but his car being on google maps did make me snigger!

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AromanticSpices · 07/07/2023 13:24

You mean the streetview picture? Lying toad. Did you know (maybe just on a computer rather than phone? ) you can go back through the history of the streetview picture, if there have been previous ones- maybe you'll spot it again going further back!

AlligatorPsychopath · 07/07/2023 13:26

I'm a little confused what you think that proves? The Streetview picture could have been taken years ago.

Dillydollydingdong · 07/07/2023 13:28

So she's inherited a big problem. Just be glad he's gone.

AromanticSpices · 07/07/2023 13:28

It gives you the date it was taken.

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youlied · 07/07/2023 14:00

AromanticSpices · 07/07/2023 13:28

It gives you the date it was taken.

I've just looked at the date it was taken 28/08/22 lying bastard

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Ladyoftheknight · 07/07/2023 14:15

What an awful way to find out. I'm sorry you went through that with him but glad you can trust your gut.

itsmylife7 · 07/07/2023 14:17

print it off and send it to him.

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youlied · 07/07/2023 14:27

itsmylife7 · 07/07/2023 14:17

print it off and send it to him.

It is a relief in some way that my gut instint wasn't wrong, but what a bastard to treat my like that.

I went no contact the day I moved out. I have no property etc and have changed the beneficiary for my pension and he is reliant on me filing for divorce. I couldn't care less, I suspect she will want babies and marriage, she still lives with her parents so expect expect he will puch for divorce at some point. He has no idea where I live now. Tosser.

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YoBeaches · 07/07/2023 14:31

itsmylife7 · 07/07/2023 14:17

print it off and send it to him.

Yes I'd do that, and file for that divorce with adultery as the reason.

Well done OP on getting out.

MintJulia · 07/07/2023 14:31

He wouldn't admit it because that means admitting he's a two timing, lying rat, and that doesn't agree with all the stories he's been telling everyone else.

itsmylife7 · 07/07/2023 14:39

youlied · 07/07/2023 14:27

It is a relief in some way that my gut instint wasn't wrong, but what a bastard to treat my like that.

I went no contact the day I moved out. I have no property etc and have changed the beneficiary for my pension and he is reliant on me filing for divorce. I couldn't care less, I suspect she will want babies and marriage, she still lives with her parents so expect expect he will puch for divorce at some point. He has no idea where I live now. Tosser.

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Absolutely a tosser.
Glad you've moved on with your life.

JingsMahBucket · 07/07/2023 14:50

@youlied take screenshots of that Google Street View image so you can add it to your files.

Mylefttoe · 07/07/2023 15:02

YoBeaches · 07/07/2023 14:31

Yes I'd do that, and file for that divorce with adultery as the reason.

Well done OP on getting out.

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You can't do that any more. It is all no fault now, based on irretrievable breakdown regardless of who did what when etc. You just file either joint or solo.

BlastedPimples · 07/07/2023 15:11

When they are having an affair, they transform their personalities.

They have to. They have to behave badly in an attempt to provoke bad behaviour from you to justify their betrayal and deceit.

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youlied · 07/07/2023 15:24

BlastedPimples · 07/07/2023 15:11

When they are having an affair, they transform their personalities.

They have to. They have to behave badly in an attempt to provoke bad behaviour from you to justify their betrayal and deceit.

Don't they just!!! He literally changed overnight. Even worse was the fact that despite me writing to his Mother explaining his behaviour his Mum kept turning up shouting and hollering. He became cold, cruel and violent. Still it's her problem now, a leopard never changes its spots, just wait till she's saddled with his child!
It's quite funny his car is on google maps though Wink

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BlastedPimples · 07/07/2023 15:29

Well, I would expect him to come grovelling back to you at least once.

Please don't take him back.

I did and he had at least two more affairs ending with him being so unpleasant to me he was violent.

Daffodil18 · 07/07/2023 15:29

I suppose it can give you some form of closure though now. How did you know about her if he never admitted to an affair?

Goldfoot · 07/07/2023 15:33

I might be inclined to send it to his mother, but the sensible thing to do is just enjoy knowing that you were right all along.

caringcarer · 07/07/2023 15:41

The thing is OP he cheated on you and now he'll probably marry OW then cheat on her too. A leopard does not change their spots.

My exh cheated on me. I divorced him. He then lived with the OW but after just 10 months he cheated on her too. She is still oblivious to my knowledge but a friend of mine saw him with a different OW kissing her in a park.

Be glad you got rid of garbage.

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youlied · 07/07/2023 15:50

Hell nooooo would I ever take him back! I cannot ever put myself through that ever again it was that bad!
I suspected at the time as his behaviour changed overnight, glued to phone, going to work earlier and leaving later, suddenlt taking the dog out so he could phone her etc.
It has helped knowing I was right all along. I have screenshotted the pics incase I need them in the future.
Like I have said I expect he will come crawling out of the woodwork for a divorce once he gets her pregnant.
Wonder what her parents must think. A 50 year old twice married man!

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LakeTiticaca · 07/07/2023 16:07

Take pleasure from the fact you are free of this horrible specimen.

His new squeeze will find out soon enough his real character.
Leopards don't change their spots

BlastedPimples · 07/07/2023 17:21

How long were you married for?

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youlied · 07/07/2023 17:22

3 years, together for 12

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