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Did you friendship group change after Divorce?

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Lostmary999 · 28/06/2023 11:43

So I've been separation for over a year, I've met someone else and I'm so much more happier. The only down side is things have changed with my friends. I used to see them every weekend with our children (I realise now this was because I didn't want to spend time alone with my ex husband), but now I co-parent I don't see them as often and I'm struggling with the change. I'm slightly Jealous that my other friends still hang out together most weekends. I know at the end of the day, my new partner is going to be my family and my priority is them. I just feel like I'm grieving my old life with my friends. Just wondering if anyone else has been through this and any advice. Thanks

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ComtesseDeSpair · 28/06/2023 23:06

You co-parent now, but surely this leaves room for you socialise with friends as you used to on the weekends you still have your DC? Or on your own when you don’t? Or have they taken against you in favour of your ex? It’s not clear.

Unless the latter, I’d be cautious about of turning a new boyfriend of less than a year into your priority and “new family” at the expense of maintaining old friendships. You don’t know how long the relationship will last and there’s every chance he’ll start to show cracks once the honeymoon period wanes - and that’s when you’ll need good friends as a sounding board.

How old are your and your friends’ DC? Perhaps your friends would now welcome more childfree socialising opportunities, with OHs (and your ex) doing childcare.

ArtixLynx · 29/06/2023 20:54

yep, i have an entirely new social circle, its great :)

ArtixLynx · 29/06/2023 20:57

sorry, realised i didn't answer. All my friends while we were together were 'our friends' and basically ghosted me soon as i left him.. he filled their brain with what a terrible person i was, failed to mention he was an abusive asshole, and no-one cared enough to get my side of the story.

I don't miss a single one of them, they're welcome to him.

New friend group are MY friends, and amazing, lovely folk... i finally have friends who get ME, and i don't feel awkward or like the odd one out.

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