Having to do an inventory of household contents - what to include/exclude ?

[coho]

Has anyone had to do this during their divorce process ?

I get doing a list of jointly purchased furniture etc but where do I stand with regards personal possessions/stuff acquired since the date of separation ?

My clothes/shoes/beauty products/hair styling equipment ?
Household items that I've bought since the date of separation, paid for out of my own earnings since that date/my own newly opened bank account ?
Items I've received personally as gifts from family/friends ? (e.g. a kindle, several bottles of expensive alcohol/jewellery/kitchen appliances) ?
Stuff I've acquired for free from facebook freecycling pages etc since the date of separation ?
Stuff I had before we married (not remotely valuable but sentimental small pieces of furniture) ?
The kids outgrown clothing that was being saved for my nephews/nieces but which apparently I now can't dispose of without H's permission and guess what, he doesn't agree to it being given away because he thinks that is ripping him off somehow !

We can debate values of the list items later but for now I'm looking for what the guidance is in this area regarding what should be included/can be excluded from such a list of household contents.

H's solicitor just parrots whatever he tells them so if he wants everything down to the last toothpick including that's what they'll say. My own solicitor can't seem to grasp that H won't be reasonable about any part of the process so suggests I do what he wants. Every time I let him have his way over something because it's cheaper than racking up solicitors costs arguing about it, he then moves on to the next thing to bully me into accepting his demands over by threatening expensive court action "if we can't agree".

What would a judge/court see as reasonable ? (because that's where we're most likely to be heading anyway in respect of other matters but I'm hoping someone can point me to some legal precedence or guidance on the matter of the current contents of the marital home).

Any knowledge from someone who has experienced this or has experience of divorce law would be much appreciated.

My exdh wanted to argue over the most ridiculous items e.g a coffee table given to me as a wedding gift through my work - his argument was our dc would miss seeing it in its usual place when visiting ! I laughed about that one and let him keep it.
Decide if these items are worth the hassle.

Having just been through this, it’s all just “stuff”, so apart from a handful of things that are personally meaningful, just play the game and get it over with; you may find, as I have, that once the divorce is done you’ll want very little that had anything to do with him…

I’d find somewhere else to store stuff and not document it. If it’s not on the list and not in the house it doesn’t exist.

I'm sorry I have no (legal) idea. I might be in the same position as you soon enough and this is what I would do. If it's not good enough he can waste his money on getting his solicitor to tell you which bits he wants including imo.

My clothes/shoes/beauty products/hair styling equipment ? No, they are personal items. You wouldn't want his razor or aftershave for instance.
Household items that I've bought since the date of separation, paid for out of my own earnings since that date/my own newly opened bank account ? No, not if date of separation has been noted legally and you have receipts for after this date.
Items I've received personally as gifts from family/friends ? (e.g. a kindle, several bottles of expensive alcohol/jewellery/kitchen appliances) ? Gifts to you after separation has been noted are gifts to you and not marital gifts.
Stuff I've acquired for free from facebook freecycling pages etc since the date of separation ? No, they were of no monetary value and weren't for his use.
Stuff I had before we married (not remotely valuable but sentimental small pieces of furniture) ? Possibly, depending on whether he used that during marriage, eg wardrobe
The kids outgrown clothing that was being saved for my nephews/nieces but which apparently I now can't dispose of without H's permission and guess what, he doesn't agree to it being given away because he thinks that is ripping him off somehow ! Tell him moths got to them so you binned them to avoid further infestation. Either really bin them or charity shop them, sorry but family gets to miss out this time.

I would list furniture, cooking and cleaning items eg hoover but not bleach. And Gardening items if you have lawnmower etc. Anything for personal care, gifts to you shouldn't be included.

My solicitor told me that a court will rarely take the value of personal possessions into consideration.
I know I declared more than my stbx, but I've got the moral highground. I figure if give ground on the little things, it's easier for me dig my heals in about the big stuff. And if it gets messy, insist on dealing with it through mediation.