I can't breathe

[HelloSunshine12]

He cheated. There was no way back. But he has been bullshitting that he wasn't interested in her and guess what now they're together. I can't be amicable now. The fact he's lied again devastates me. I wanted to trust him on some level for our child. But he's shat on everything again. I honestly can't breathe. I've known for three hours. I feel like I'm suffocating. I've got to do the nursery run in six hours and then start work. Please somebody hold my hand or help me flip my mindset somehow 😢

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Sorry op! Can you call in sick for work? Give yourself a few days to process the information?

It's shitter than shit. My ex tried to sleep with my best friend.

But. I promise you. You will be fine. You'll be happy and smiley one day soon,

Keep all contact about the DC. Anything else, ignore.

Thank you for replying.

I can't bear the thought of such shitty human beings having influence in my child's life. It's bad enough I made a shit choice in him, but for her to suffer as a result as well. I just know he will dilute my good parenting and I know she'll probably still be OK in the long run but I had a crappy childhood and a broken home and I've tried so hard to give her stability and he's just pouring petrol on it all. How can you prioritise your child if you're so bothered about your love life? He's 34. She's 19. 19.

She has you. That's her stability. You will be her constant.

The 19 year old will soon be gone.. when she realises he's too old for the kinda stuff she likes to do. Did she know about you? What a tramp if so!

He she's did. He's her manager. I used to go into work with our DD. That's how I found out. She told me at his workplace out the back. He was there and let me be taken away to be told. Said he didn't care for her etc (despite knowing it was divorce time) and yet despite that he now wants to see where things go.

He knew we were over yet he's sat there lying for the last six weeks. I knew he was withholding details but I didn't expect the fucker to be this cruel. And to send me a text at 10pm when I'm alone with DD??? Can't get over how I'm expected to handle all this and he just cracks on with life as he pleases whilst I have no choice but to pick up all the pieces.

It won't last OP.

Both of them are hideous.

Focus on your LO. Take a few days off to process it and please look after yourself!

Oh dear, you poor thing ! I'm sending a big hug to you. He is horrible and you're better off without him. I promise that one day you'll be happy again, one day life will be lovely again. In the meantime, try to get some time off work, or at least just take care of yourself when you can. Your DD is lucky to have you xxx

Hi @HelloSunshine12 omg i'm so sorry you're going through this xx
You stay strong ok, you got this 💪
Your DD just needs you and your love.
Sending you lots of strength to get through this xx