Back story: DV& DAbused for years – Ex finally taken away by police just over a year ago. Police did not Charge, but I had a Court issue of a Non-Mol then it changed to Court Order – (not to come 100mtr of me/house).
Initially, under police supervision he was able to come back to the house and had 2 hours to grab & go – he grabbed all the cash, all his leisure, and as much sports equipment he could fit into 2 vans. Over the first 2 months he has asked a mutual friend to collect certain sport equipment, extra clothes and some bits & pieces, which I have obliged.
Then he made a load of allegations to the Courts against me with regard to the children – CAFCASS are involved. We’ve been back to Court 3 times now. I am still in the house with the children.
Each time we are in Court, no matter what the reason, he always complains to the Judge that he doesn’t have his belongings. I remind him (them), I have not heard from the mutual friend. He tries to push the fact he wants to come into the house to look and see what’s his, even his solicitor has said he can’t! I have represented myself, I have no money, he was in sole charge of all finances, even my savings (which he has taken, I know …)!
I know he wants the house (and has used the children allegation) to try and gain the house with the fact that he can take care of the children better than I, in that house!
Friday just gone, I receive an email from his solicitor with an attachment of 2 A4sheets, full of all the items he wants from the house/loft, including tools from his man-shed. None of these items are urgent, he could have had them slowly over the past year. I’ve looked at the list and it is ridiculous! A lot of the items are really old and shared (ie. CDs).
This would mean I would be spending HOURS & Hours over several weeks, sorting through the house, the loft and his man-shed. He has sent no boxes etc. for ALL these items to be moved.
I do not want to do this! He is controlling me again, and laughing at me, I’m sure.
What do you think (legally) I can do?