divorce, separation and child maintenance payments

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Experienced Mums here question - what do you think about men who keep children during separation and after divorce? This is so that they don't have to pay maintenance, right?
Why would they not want to pay maintenance to their ex? Are they worried she will not feed and clothe their child?
What is the mentality of those guys?

Depends on the couple divorcing and the situation of the case. No statistic, anecdote or point of view is necessarily relevant to an individual case.

That said, I would find a man who preferred to pay money than to spend time with their children a bit odd to be honest.

It’s not strange that men who do little of the child raising while married want 50:50 on divorce

what people are willing to do as part of a family unit is very different to what they will do post that. Usually ( although not always) women’s role changes by having to work more and take greater financial responsibility for themselves, men often have to pick up more child related responsibilities

Am I understanding your post right?
You think men that want custody of their children do it just to avoid paying CM?

Nothing to do with loving and wanting to spend time with their children, enjoying being a dad and not wanting to lose that some, most or all of the time?

We’re (thankfully) not in the 1950’s anymore were women were the nurturer and men were there just to provide.

Men are more than capable of being the RP as women are. The world has (thankfully) moved on.

Your line ‘what do you think about men who KEEP children during separation and after divorce’?

You do know that fathers can love their children and want to be with them as much as mothers? Mothers aren’t in charge or the more important parent.

I've found that there's loads of reasons why they would want the kids. Some do really want them out of love. I've found that if any people don't want to pay child maintenance, they just don't and they get way with it. It's surprising how much some parents get away with it.
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How ridiculous a post. So men only want children not to pay maintenance. How about you? Do you want to keep them to receive child maintenance?

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