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Sallyxox · 2023-06-15T10:31:40+00:00

So hubby left me 11 weeks ago I know there been another women which is always denied. He says diff things to diff people, he was unhappy for ages, we were pulling in different directions, he fell out of love blah blah. All while planning to buy a house and giving me pictures to pick driveways from! so anyway last night he came to see little one and in the week he tends to come mine just for her routine while he’s on a friends sofa. So he walks in and I say text me when ur getting ready for leaving I’m just nipping a mates for a brew. he kicks off saying I’m not arsed, course ur going ur mates, leave then go on and whatever else. is this a thing? Like he left me and I’m meant to sit stagnant at home?

HandsupSue · 15/06/2023 11:35

What an odd bod
Look at him quizzically, cock your head and say “is everything ok?”

Darknightsahead · 15/06/2023 11:37

Of course it’s a thing. He wants you curled up in a ball begging him to come back.

Don’t fall for it, and don’t engage when he does it. They hate that.

Whenwillitallmakesense · 15/06/2023 11:45

Of course you're not supposed to be able to carry on with normal, everyday routines, are you crazy? You're supposed to be a quivering, snivelling wreck, unable to get yourself dressed of a morning, never mind wanting to leave the house and see friends. You're supposed to be texting him hourly, begging him to come back and be so grateful when he comes to visit that you throw yourself onto his arms, weeping, telling him all the things he needs to hear about how much you love him, need him, can't cope without him blah blah blah.

He needs you to be like this not only to boost his fragile ego and to let him know there'll never be anyone else in your heart, home or bed ever again, but also to let him know there's a chance he can crawl back if and when his new side bit doesn't work out and his back starts hurting from sleeping on a sofa.

Know your place, woman, and start playing the game

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Sallyxox · 15/06/2023 11:49

Whenwillitallmakesense · 15/06/2023 11:45

Of course you're not supposed to be able to carry on with normal, everyday routines, are you crazy? You're supposed to be a quivering, snivelling wreck, unable to get yourself dressed of a morning, never mind wanting to leave the house and see friends. You're supposed to be texting him hourly, begging him to come back and be so grateful when he comes to visit that you throw yourself onto his arms, weeping, telling him all the things he needs to hear about how much you love him, need him, can't cope without him blah blah blah.

He needs you to be like this not only to boost his fragile ego and to let him know there'll never be anyone else in your heart, home or bed ever again, but also to let him know there's a chance he can crawl back if and when his new side bit doesn't work out and his back starts hurting from sleeping on a sofa.

Know your place, woman, and start playing the game

So from my point I only contact in regards to little one or any money. I go out when he has her have a nice little life I created in the past 11 weeks. Is there anymore I can do? To show him I’m also more than happy this relationship is over?
iv send divorce he’s just saving up his half.

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HandsupSue · 15/06/2023 11:50

Sallyxox · 15/06/2023 11:49

So from my point I only contact in regards to little one or any money. I go out when he has her have a nice little life I created in the past 11 weeks. Is there anymore I can do? To show him I’m also more than happy this relationship is over?
iv send divorce he’s just saving up his half.

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Anything you can do?

just crack on and ignore