Final hearing after FDR - is the outcome likely to be the same?

[Justwanttobehappyplease]

Didn’t settle at FDR, open offers miles apart (see other thread!) so heading to a final hearing. Just wondering if anyone else has been through this and how different the final outcome was from the indication at the FDR?

(I have offered what the Judge said at the FDR)

I got a better offer at the final hearing than the FDR.

I got the same as the indication at the FDR. Just 6 months and loads more money wasted 🤷‍♀️

Following your other threat as in similar position possibly. Does your ex understand that he may have to pay your costs?

*thread!

Mine didn’t settle at first or second and I initially offered a 50/50 split he refused. Despite me having the children, asking for no pension and no support accept CMS.
he started at 80/10 and then 75/25 and then 65/35 …. Got 9 months down the line

final hearing Judge gave me 65 him 35 and gave some of my costs to him - he was well annoyed (the judge)

I know it’s hard but hold the line and meanwhile stick to the judges position but strengthened your arguments / what does he need? He’s on £45 K why should you pay for a dog, earning potential.

cost up all the childcare you have paid and will continue to pay

also don’t forget university costs and his contribution there - what happens if you are ill - any potential for you to go part time? Temporary? To stabilise the children and hep their routine - you would be earning less then?

holidays - who is covering childcare? Etc

hold the line

mind wanted me to buy him chicken as I had chicken never mind he didn’t like them 🤦‍♀️😂

need versus want

price up a cheaper house for him to reduce his equity show three sale prices so he can move and downsize

how much childcare did he do? Etc who paid for diy and home improvements

the children are what the court are really interested in - who pays for swimming etc

@Justwanttobehappyplease have you had your final hearing yet?

Yes, we reached an agreement on the day of the hearing, just before we were due to go into court.

Was your agreement similar to the offer you made at the FDR? I'm guessing it was otherwise you wouldn't have agreed.

What a waste of time your ex is, dragging it all the way to a final hearing, only to reach an agreement anyway (which he could have done any time).

Anyway, it's all over now, congratulations.

Yes, similar to my offer at the FGR. A bit more generous to him in relation to the equity split (because he had lost his job in the meantime) but a clean break. Thanks for all the support. Life is definitely looking better these days!

That’s amazing.

Well done! A brighter future ahead for you now!
We’ve just had our FDR, everything went my way, including the judge saying I could keep my inheritance.
Stbxh didn’t agree with any of it, so we’re now heading for a final hearing.
ExH didn’t even give me a chance to negotiate so as to let him have more.

@Busbygirl are you represented? I think, make him an open offer now so then you can claim your costs from

@Busbygirl do you mind me asking, how long was your marriage and at what stage did you get your inheritance? Had you kept it separate?

Yes I was. I’ve had a brilliant (but expensive) solicitor all the way through and a fabulous barrister at the hearing. My stbxh was a LIP before the hearing. He did have the most useless barrister at the hearing though.
We’re making an open offer this week.
I haven’t asked my solicitor about claiming costs. Why does this mean I may be able to claim costs?

Married 30 years.
Had the last of my inheritance 2 1/2 years before we separated.
Yes I’d put it into my own savings accounts.

Sorry my message only half posted. What I meant to say is, if your open offer is reasonable and he takes it all the way to final hearing, and he doesn’t achieve better at the hearing, you could possibly claim costs.