To expect him to look after his children and pay his way?

[denpark]

Hi. So, I'm going to try & keep this very factual as I'm so angry.

Myself & my ex are separated but share a house (not my choice. He keeps saying he's moving out then fails to do so).

Divorce is happening. He keeps forgetting to book his mediation appointment

He has never looked after the children as much as I have and does bare minimum during holidays/weekends. Yet he apparently wants to go for 50/50 shared custody...

He hasn't paid towards any bills/food/things for the children in well over two years yet goes out drinking/smoking.

I am so fed up but I've been told that I can't ask him to leave the house (as he owns half)

He disappears for most of the weekend and doesn't ever make any effort to look after the children.

Is there anything I can do legally?

Don’t know about legally, but can you agree a child contact schedule then
whomever turn is with the children is in charge of looking after them / feeding them?

Best thing to do is keep your cool and divorce as quickly as possible.

No, nothing you can do other than to proceed with your divorce.

Get the divorce through, you can’t move on till them. He’ll never come through on 50/50 so don’t worry about it.

Thank you everyone. It's very frustrating.

Can I make a claim against him for the costs of the bills he hasn't contributed towards since the separation? He's been taking the piss

No you can't.

Just crack on with the divorce and get it settled as soon as possible. Make the mediation appointment yourself. If you show up and he doesn't then thats on him and you can just move on to the next phase.

Get up really early next Saturday and leave them to it.... Text him when you have arrived at Cafe /museum /friend's house to give an eta home later...
Contact the utility people and say you are legally separated and you acknowledge 50%of bills going forward..

You can take him to small claims and get the money back that way. I’d write to him, film him opening the letter.

If you are living completely separately within the home it might be possible to claim child maintenance, it's worth a phone call to check.

This is over 3 months old !.

I am so fed up but I've been told that I can't ask him to leave the house (as he owns half)

Selling the house is likely to be the best plan.