Going through a divorce - Need some kind words

[Anita848]

Hey guys, I'm kinda down right now. Going through a divorce and I've been using all the resources I can find (I'll list them here if you want them too) https://www.iamlip.com/ https://www.womensaid.org.uk/ and some local council places that give what little advice they can.
Anyway, I'm slowly getting through it. I want to say I'm getting better day by day but it's not true. I'm spiralling every other day wondering how I ended up here. My partner wasn't a very nice or good person and I feel as if I've wasted part of my life. My kids also deserve better so I'm glad we're separating but they don't deserve to see any of this happen. I just need some kind words right now. I wish this wasn't happening.

Refuge is also a good one I forgot to add so ill leave this here.

I'm so sorry to hear what you're going through.
From the sites you posted it must have been / be an abusive relationship.

Do you have anyone to support you? Do you have DC?

Good for you for leaving. 🌸

Sorry I see you mentioned the kids. How old are they?
Where are you living?

It's an extremely difficult time. As stressful and painful as a death so go very easy on yourself. Accept that you will go through all the grieving stages with a lot of anger and disappointment.

It won't always be as painful as now but at the moment it's good you are getting all the support you can.

Yes unfortunately it was. Luckily I have my mum that I can talk to and contact, but she is quite far away. I'm scared to reach out to some of my friends as I haven't spoken to a lot of them in a very long time.

I'm sorry I'm not too familiar with some words, what's DC?

They are 9 and 10. I don't want to be too specific about where I am but I'm in the South of England.

Sorry I accidently posted this in the wrong place. I'll post it again here.

Yes unfortunately it was. Luckily I have my mum that I can talk to and contact, but she is quite far away. I'm scared to reach out to some of my friends as I haven't spoken to a lot of them in a very long time.

I'm sorry I'm not too familiar with some words, what's DC?

DC is darling children. Kids to the rest of us!

Dear children. I'm so glad you got out and its a good refuge.
I was in a refuge 35 years ago and whilst it was a relief there was also unaccountable sadness.
Its because all the hopes and dreams that you had of this marriage and a happy future have turned to dust.
That was the worst part for me, seeing other people happy and feeling why did this happen to me, I've got nobody now and so on and so forth.
once I got a divorce and got a place to live with dear son I went on to buy my own house, train for a very good career and have a really happy life.
That happiness was not down to any man, it was what I made for myself.
Don't be tempted to rush into another relationship, you need time and space to process all this. When I got my decree absolute it felt more like a funeral than a celebration but this will pass as your new life begins. Good luck.

Yes I didn't mean whereabouts, sorry, I meant what's your current situation.

How are the kids?

I bet some of your friends are worrying about you, try contacting them.
As long as they haven't got any links to your ex