Desperate to get away from my husband

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I really want to end my marriage. We have 2 kids and own a house. I work in a high stress job and pay for absolutely everything. I saved and paid for the entire house deposit because my husband spent every penny he earned on crap. My husband left his job a few years back to work freelance but he makes a pittance so contributes nothing. He sits at his computer for nearly 18 hours a day including most of the weekend. He does no cleaning, laundry and just leaves his mess around. He does the school run but just sticks the kids in front of screens so he can return to his computer. He refuses to get a job and hardly leaves the house except to do the school run. I can't even stand to be with him anymore. If I file for divorce, would he get the kids and house? I'll get legal advice before doing anything of course.

That sounds awful, I am sorry.

I think getting legal advice would be sensible before you make any moves.

I also think he would be expected to get a job and support himself.

How old are your children?

Thank you, good to hear he'd likely be expected to get a job.

The kids are 7 and 10.

No he would not get everything. It doesn't work like that any more. He would be expected to support himself. Make sure you get a consent order. Just divorce this useless bag of shit.
My life improved no end once I divorced my similar useless sponger.

He might get something.

But the best way to look at this is, whatever he gets today, he would get even more of your money if you delay till tomorrow, so the sooner you do it, the less he'll get and the quicker you will start building your own pot.

Book ti see a solicitor today.

This!
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He might get something. You might have to sell the house.

But think about it, is an asset, a THING, really so much more important than your happiness? Really?

You can always make money. You can always buy another house. Fuck your husband, he sounds awful.

I'm speaking from experience where I walked away with two kids and £0. I rebuilt my life and I'm beyond happy.

Thank for your replies. It occurred to me that this will be the rest of my life unless I do something about it. So I will book that appointment.

Get your wage and child benefit paid into your own account, then see a family solicitor before having a conversation with him.
Yes, he’ll have to get a job.