DP & I together 10 years we have a 1 year old who is very loved and wanted (IVF baby). It has all being brewing since her arrival to be honest - he's lazy - always going away for sports matches (atleast once a month and it will be an overnight stay or longer / even if he doesn't stay out he'll come back having had more than a few drinks.. he'll play sports most of the weekend mornings / early afternoons if he's not away. We only have my mum for support and she will drop what she's doing for her grandchild but it just allows him to continue booking things in last minute and expect me to rearrange work.
I went back to work recently and do three set shifts that worked for our family including a night or day over the weekend. He wants me to give this up as he has "no time to do anything" since feb last year I have had 3 nights out.
He told me I have a break from our child when I go to work yet he works from home and won't do anything when he is working apart from make himself hot drinks and he will work from whenever he gets up until 6pm then moans he doesn't get a break after work as he does the bedtime routine
He often speaks to me like dirt on his shoe and even mentions financial things and then says he is only joking - yet I'm the one who is paying the nursery fees straight from my salary - share towards the mortgage / bills and then I'm paying my mum off for a loan that got us through the last of my mat leave and barely have a pot to piddle in myself.
I'm just full of writhing rage any time he comes near me. Not sure how to go about it tbh