In January this year I discovered my partner of 16 years had been having an affair whilst away for work. He works away for large parts of the year (months at a time) on various different contracts. So different groups of people never consistent.after discovering and confronting him about the cheating he literally upped and left and refused any conversation about what happened. Other than some excuses to put some blame on me and rewrite the narrative of our relationship.
we have two young children 3 and 6. I’m really struggling coming to terms with the end of the relationship. I don’t know how to co parent when he can not offer any consistency in seeing the children at all. It’s a basically an as and when it fits into his schedule. We are talking maybe a week every few months. He has no home or anywhere to live. He simply plans to rent various holiday accommodation in that time. Am I being unreasonable to think it’s poor.
He has agreed we can stay in the house but as we are not married and I am not on the mortgage it is his property. I feel in a terrible situation and know it’s my own fault for not marrying and making sure we had the security. I just can’t believe how irrelevant we suddenly became.
I feel low and I’m not really sure how to move forward. I feel so deeply betrayed and I don’t know how a person can treat another so badly. He was the guy everyone always thought was so genuine and good.