Hi, I’m reaching out because I don’t know what to do anymore and could really do with some advice.
My ex and I had been together for 10 years, we had 2 beautiful children together and life was good until he cheated on me with my niece, In my bed, In our family home.
she went to the police and accused him of sexual assault and he was arrested, later on he gets the all clear because not enough evidence. I believed him, as I thought he wasn’t capable but after a while I had to make a decision on whether to loose my family or him. I chose family as we are a close family and had to end things with him. Been the hardest thing ever as I did love him and he was a great man to me and my kids but he showed no remorse in anything and started to test our relationship where we were arguing more then normal! Don’t know if I made the right decision but 18 months on, he’s now moved on to someone else (an older women) he seems so happy but yet I’m so miserable that I’ve lost everything. Why am I being punished for his mistake? Why can’t I be happy and meet someone else?
My question to you all is what would you have done? Did I do the right thing, choosing my sister (who said she would never speak to me again) over him? I do still love him, and miss him so much and it kills me that he has another life with someone else. More importantly I didn’t want this for our children, now they have to spend their time between us both. I’ve had therapy, but I’m still feeling really rubbish. Feels like I’m the one in the wrong and being punished and generally don’t know what to do anymore 😟 why does he get to be happy after everything he has put me through?