Hello, I'm hoping someone can weigh in on my soon to be divorce dilemma and help me focus my thoughts. Background is I have been married for 20 years and things have very quickly gone badly wrong in my marriage. I believe there is another woman in the picture and my DH and I have stopped communicating. We do not live together (complicated reason) but were very committed to each other until very recently. I was married before and left my previous husband for my current one. This has always weighed heavily on me and I guess I am guilty of expecting too much of my current DH to justify leaving my previous husband.
Anyway, I am very concerned about how things will go for me for the Financial Order. I have no savings because I have basically squandered all of my money. I also have sizeable credit card debt. My DH does not know about any of this. We always paid for everything separately. We do not have a house having always rented but what I do have is a fairly chunky pension. My DH has a small inheritance and no pension at all. He has always worked and has 10 years to go before retirement age.
Does anyone have an experience at all of how the Financial Order thing will go? Does that court just look at all the assets and debts and makes a decision from there? In terms of the pension, I know my DH is legally entitled to half of it but how is this figure actually calculated? Will he be liable for any of my debts? Will my debt be looked upon unfavourably and the court will return some of my pension to him to effectively cancel it out? I have scoured the internet for some answers but it all very vague. Any pointers or advice gratefully received.