Feel so upset :(

[DonutKnow]

This is a rant because I just feel really upset/stressed/annoyed.
Why is it that if a dad, who walked out when the child was a baby, chooses to have another baby with someone else then the maintenance towards the child goes down. How is this fair in the first child?
So, my ex had a baby and has gone and worked out the maintenance now that he has a baby and it's now less than it was. The cost of living has gone up hugely so again, we have more to fork out. Morally, how is this okay? He literally pays to the penny, what the Gov. calculates.
My husband pays WAY more towards his step daughter, and it'll be even more now. My ex spoils her rotten and us guys don't, we can't afford to go away all the time like they do or go out for meals every weekend we have her.
I feel sick to my stomach that he's okay doing this. And the reason is - he'll be all smug about it as he won't see it as his first daughter missing out, he'll see it as us having to pay more. F*cked off is an understatement. Sorry about rant but don't want to tell my husband as he'll be really upset too 😢

State intervention in who may reproduce seems a pretty dark path to proceed down to me. I would also be very worried about the way first partners could use the law to coercively control their ex and any future partners with a law like this.

Pretend he is dead and live your financial life accordingly. He's clearly useless

But didn’t you say he spoils her when he has her? So he clearly uses his income on her. It’s sounds like your issue is that he doesn’t maintain your income as well any more.

Clearly useless how? He moved on and has a bigger family than the OP now. That happens after divorce. What I've noticed though is that ex-wives and GFs deeply, deeply resent their loss of control over the payer.

I agree with you OP. The system is set up to make sure the father is not that badly off after paying maintenance, even if it means the mother and child is. It disgusts me.