Am I being unreasonable??

[Miriam2270]

I divorced my ex husband after 30 years for his infidelities, narcissistic behaviour and abuse towards me , believe me it took a lot and I had a nervous breakdown. My Dad died, I lost my home , business and needed major surgery.
5 years have passed I have a new home & a new partner things are stable.
My daughter& her husband have a new baby & live in Canada , they want me to go for a visit but with my ex-husband so we can Be a family! I’m being made to feel I should be “over” things and able to put everything behind me like an adult.
That man almost destroyed me ! but I feel the manipulation , he keeps phoning me asking why I won’t go . What do I say to them ? Help……….

No
why do they want you together
just tell them no but you’d love to go on your own

You tell them that you would love to come and see them but that you will come at a different time. You can say that whilst it is in the past, you would prefer not to holiday with your ex husband and that it would be awkward for you and probably for everyone else.

Hell no ... I wouldn't be forced into that situation. Really though, only you know whether you want this and make the decision. Realistically you are are no longer full family, that has changed along with the dynamics.

Hell no.

Tell them that while you love them you do not love your ex and he is not part of your life anymore. State you and your fiancee are happy to come and visit.

Your new partner may not be your fiancee but by calling him that you are making it crystal clear to them that you have moved on.

YANBU. The family they want time as doesn't exist anymore.
Stay firm and say no way!

That you, or you and dp, would love to go, but not at the same time as exH.

They are barking. You say no! They are insane to even suggest it.

Thanks everyone my thoughts exactly , just needed verification! X