Separating from husband but sharing the house

[Lonelyunwife]

What do I need to do as weve also got 3 kids age 10, 14 and 18.

Do i imagine he's not there? 🤨🤨

Can you afford to rent somewhere else and do nesting? Means one of you in the house at a time, then the other goes to the smaller house and the kids stay put.

No we cant afford to rent elsewhere as atm im looking for a full time job as im leaving my self employed as its not working out at all as im a childminder.

@LiftyLift but good idea for that.

it will be weird as ive been with him for over 22 years. I do wish he move out but i cant force him. House is up for sale anyway..

It’s very difficult, I did it for several years. Don’t recommend it! The only advantage was that once separated and not speaking, there were fewer arguments. Try to live separately as soon as possible

My ex and I had to do this for a few months because of covid. It was horrible at first because I don't like him - obvo 😂. But, then I just decided to be nice, it'd be nicer for everyone, and it was.

We're not even arguing as we're just living our own lives atm. Just talking about the kids and the house.

If you can rub along without resentment that’s great. Do you have basic plans/agreements in place for when the house sells - kids, maintenance, split of assets?

@LadyGardenersQuestionTime a little bit about the plans as it was last week i suggested we seperate and he to move out so we have a clear mind to think a out each other but he said no. (Can't afford it) so tonight i told him he's not giving me much choice but to go ahead with the divorce. So i will have another talk with him. We both been miserable for years but stayed together cos of kids.