Where to begin! My ex husband left me on the 18th January 2020, I had no job and no money. I begged him not to go. He didn’t listen and he left. I started divorce proceedings in the hope it would shock him enough to return and save our marriage. He didn’t return and he didn’t contest the application for the divorce. Thedecree Absolute was granted in February 2021.
He returned to the UK at the end of December 2021, 3 weeks before his Indefinite Leave to Remain was due to expire. He called me to ask if we could try again, he promised to come and see me to speak face to face. He didn’t come and see me, he just called to tell me he wanted £75,000. A third of my inheritance. I later discovered he had remarried and has a child with his new wife.
To try and cut a long story short, he has filed court proceedings, he wants a lump sum, half the house and my pensions.
I am now fighting for my home, the house I inherited from my Mum & Dad.
I believe I’m a victim of immigration marriage fraud.
To date I’ve spent nearly £25,000 on solicitors fees and I have been advised by my solicitors the projected fees will be in the region of £37,000 to reach the court hearing in August.
I genuinely don’t know what to do.
I am so ashamed, I was foolish to trust this man. He is a calculated crook and a liar. How stupid was I to believe he loved me.
It would be so much easier for everyone if I finished my life, but I can’t give up. I have to fight! How I find the money to continue God only knows.
This is just a very small piece of the story.
My message to anyone who reads this post, please be aware of the TOLATA law (Trust of Land and Trustees Act 1996).
If you love someone, you believe they love you, please trust no one! Trust yourself, trust your head not your heart, listen to your gut instincts, believe me they are not wrong.
It doesn’t matter how much you love someone, draw up a pre-nuptial agreement. Protect what is yours because the law won’t protect you.
Thank you for reading.
Georgie