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Benefits and separation + Holiday

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Chocolatehot · 23/04/2023 21:49

Me and my partner have two children and are in the process of separating, we are not married but do still have our joint rented property along with a joint bank account and joint bills. I have secured a privately rented property for me and the kids to move into and made a universal credit claim as I work almost full time but due to the cost of rent and bills will need some help. We are very amicable and this is a joint decision, we had time booked off to go on holiday with the kids in the next two weeks due to not going away since covid and decided that we would still go but just as a way for the kids to get a break and for us as things have been stressful for us both and neither of us want to do a holiday abroad alone with the kids.
I have had a message on my universal credit account asking if I am living with someone and have explained we are separated (staying in separate rooms) just living under the same roof until I have the new house keys. My main concern is will they know if I have been away with my ex partner? The plan was to go abroad and now I’m worried it’ll look like we’re a couple.

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Babyroobs · 23/04/2023 21:58

Well one of the things they could look at in deciding if you are single is holidaying together. Why on earth didn't you just wait until after the holiday to claim as single ? Yes it's going to look odd and probably raise suspicions if they checked things out. However I guess the chances of them finding out are slim, but of course it's not usual to be going on a 2 week holiday with someone you have allegedly split from.

Chocolatehot · 23/04/2023 22:04

Sorry it’s not a 2 week holiday, we both booked a week off work a long time ago in hope we could find a last minute deal but the relationship has basically done a nose dive and we’re deciding to split before it gets to a point where we hate each other. The holiday is not necessary and to be honest I feel I need it more for my mental health than anything else. I don’t have friends or family that would go abroad with me and the kids so it just feels like my only option. I can’t afford to privately rent alone and not claim even thought I work full time so that’s why I did the claim when I did. He is also paying towards the children and childcare and to be honest I’m not wanting to rock the boat or get to a point where he isn’t willing to help with those things. Maybe I just need to wait to go away as I don’t want to look like I’m being dishonest even though I understand how it could look

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