End of relationship, single parent life.

[Brightlightlisa]

So, I finally did it. Left my bf. After a barrage of angry messages and threatening not to see his own son, he's finally starting to talk like an adult. Just wana get my life back on track, but seem to being made to feel guilty for trying to do that because now his life is so shit! Just wanted to vent really cuz I've not told many people. Wanted to see how others deal with being a single parent now? Going on days out on your own, dealing with the finances, getting to feel like yourself again?

I unexpectedly became a single parent to 1 year old twins and an older child last year after ex husband decided he didn't want family life anymore

My advice is not to have long or even medium term plans take it a day at a time.
I've always took my 3 out on my own - I don't want them to miss out just because I'm a single parent - you've got the one child so my rules about fenced in play areas and them wearing bright coloured clothes may not apply 😂 I try not to get stressed when they run in 3 different directions, I've worked hard on holding hands and listening etc.
trial and error really. There aren't really any places I wouldn't attempt - I've even done the beach on my own 💪🏻
Finances is harder to advise on - I'm the higher earner so fortunate that way - but budgets and spreadsheets are the future - sit down and work out every outgoing - what's needed / not needed. Try and put away even a small amount of savings each month even if it's £10 on case something breaks
I'm not sure I'll ever feel myself again but I'm working on a new me x