Report this? To who?

[mynamechangemyrules]

ExH is 'erratic' in taking up his access. Will drop children back if they are not 'respectful' or do not comply with his instructions etc. plenty of previous on this.

I packed them up to go with him on Sat pm for a week- tonnes of packing too as he wants all sorts and doesn't keep any of their stuff at his)

Sun mid afternoon eldest DC sends message saying he's being 'kicked out' ExH confirms this but no more is forthcoming from either. I messaged both to say I was out 4.30-7pm so let me know any changes of plan before that. (At a massage!!! The guilt...)

Get home at 7 and DCs are in the back garden.
Been there 1.5hrs.
Apparently they'd pointed out to ExH I wouldn't be there till 7 and he said he 'didn't care' (according to DCs)
Ages are 6-12.
Have an email sent while I was at massage where he states 'if no one is there they will have to wait outside for someone to open the door' (ie threatening me to come home as I usually would from wherever I was... but I was being massaged 😳😳😳😳)

Anyway- this is reportable shit isn't it??? Whenever it's been 'just' dropped to me- usually in the street somewhere if I am out or otherwise I leg it home to get whichever child has been rejected I am more preoccupied by consoling the children than reporting him (but I save screenshots and details). This time I feel I need to DO something.

Allegedly he was parked in the street somewhere until the eldest messaged to say they were inside but I did not see him as I came through the back garden.

Anyway. Report? And to who?

That's fine but a note of a report date and what they said would be good to have for future?

Yes, it is expensive.
Agree, with C100, need to decide what to apply for.
Do you want to apply to stop contact temporarily until he makes a commitment to looking after them properly for the agreed times?
If there is no CAO, maybe C100 isn't worth the money and you could stop contact and wait until he applies to the court.
What are the current arrangements regarding children, is it just an informal arrangement? Obviously this impacts what to do next. You might want to apply for a CAO or wait for him to do so.
Disadvantage of waiting for him to do so is that the ball will be in his court, he will write the application listing all the things he think you have done wrong and you will be defending yourself if you are not careful.
If you apply for a CAO, you can explain that you want to maintain contact but the current system isn't working so you want something more structured in place.
Unless you don't want them going there for now. In that case you could stop contact and let him apply to court to see them. But be aware that he might use this to try to make you look bad to the court for denying him time with the children.

At times like this, it's good to have a Rinf=g Dorrbell as evidence. You can then save the videos. Personally, I think this is appalling behaviour, that shouldn't be tolerated. No one is mentioning the emotional damage it's probably doing to both children. Just being dumped. He has his priorities, and it definitely isn't the children.

*Ring