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Husband - under one roof

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SteakChips · 02/04/2023 06:55

My husband of 6 years has decided to end our marriage. We have a child together who going to be 2 years. Also have his sons who are teenager's living with us full time. The teenagers are living with us as their mum is very unfit to look after them and on drugs.

Husband basically told me that due to me, the stresses of not selling the property (family of 5 in 2 bedrrom place) and our son waiting for assessment he no longer loves me, feels like his missing something etc. He basically said he wants to continue to live under the same roof.

The property is in my name as he moved into my place when we got together. I explained to him its unfair as i didnt see this coming and you clearly closed the door on your feelings and expects me to be ok with this.

I said you have a month to find some where. He said legally i dont have a leg to stand on to have him removed from the place. Also he said he wants money to help him get a place. I explained i would need to sell my property and move back home to my parents. He then moaned what he wont see our son if i do that. This isnt my problem as how can i pay you if i have no money.

Just dont know what to do. I want to stay in my place for our son as he is waiting for assessment on his needs, which took me month to have someone to listen to me about it.

God im too tired for this.

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GoodChat · 02/04/2023 07:00

Speak to a solicitor. He's unlikely to be allowed to force you to sell your home if you have a young child.

BurntOutGirl · 02/04/2023 07:05

GoodChat · 02/04/2023 07:00

Speak to a solicitor. He's unlikely to be allowed to force you to sell your home if you have a young child.

That's not true as numerous posts on here by family solicitors will confirm.

As it's a relatively short marriage you may have more sway on keeping the property even though it has become a marital asset.

What are the rest of your finances like? Is he a higher earner with a better pension then you... as you would have a claim on that.

Once my XH realised that l had a claim on his precious pension he back tracked on selling the property.

You really need legal advise

drpet49 · 02/04/2023 07:23

Doesn’t matter if the house is in your name, it is classed a shared marital asset as you are married. 50/50 will be the starting point.

mamnotmum · 02/04/2023 07:52

I really think that before people are married there should be a compulsory 30 min meeting with someone legally qualified to explain what marriage encompasses.

So many people lose their assets through marriage and it's completely possible to stop it happening if a prenup is put in place.

I know that doesn't help you now but as everyone else says yours assets are shared because you are married. Speak to a solicitor ; you can't stay living with him now he has said he doesn't want to be together so you'll have to reach some solution.

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SteakChips · 02/04/2023 09:03

So, im the main owner and i have private pension he only has state pension. I said im not bothered what he takes inside the property and as for the car i said we sell and go halfs, as i need a car that wouldnt drink alot to take little one to his appointment.

I had been married before, where i had to sell everything and start all over again. Im going to be 40 soon and i really scared i have to start over. My parents are so supportive and already re- arranging thier house to fit us in.

Ive asked ex to be to come up with a figure on how much he think he needs to live for a property to house his two sons and for our little one etc.

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LemonTT · 02/04/2023 10:22

SteakChips · 02/04/2023 09:03

So, im the main owner and i have private pension he only has state pension. I said im not bothered what he takes inside the property and as for the car i said we sell and go halfs, as i need a car that wouldnt drink alot to take little one to his appointment.

I had been married before, where i had to sell everything and start all over again. Im going to be 40 soon and i really scared i have to start over. My parents are so supportive and already re- arranging thier house to fit us in.

Ive asked ex to be to come up with a figure on how much he think he needs to live for a property to house his two sons and for our little one etc.

You aren’t the main owner. Once you got married you agreed to share your wealth. That’s fundamentally what marriage means.

Factors relevant will be that your marriage is short. But you should be aware the length of the relationship will be used to define this. Not the period you were married.

There are children. One who is biologically yours and 2 who could be considered to be children of the marriage. This is a complicated situation emotionally and legally.

Legally you are way off base.

GoodChat · 02/04/2023 13:20

He knew what he was doing, didn't he?

You're currently in a 2 bed and he's going to tell you what he needs for a 4 bed.

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SteakChips · 02/04/2023 15:56

In my first marriage, i had a solicitor who pretect my penison, im hoping do to the same.

Im hoping he doesnt want a 4 bed so my property isnt worth that amout where we live.

Looks like i will be going to see a solicitor thia week.

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