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Divorce/separation

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Less than 2 years married

11 replies

SwiftKoala · 28/03/2023 12:30

DH and I have crossed the 1 year mark so can't do an annulment. I put all of the money into our house deposit. It was a small deposit.
We both earn similar (fairly high) amounts.
I am about to broach the topic of finances. What should I be aiming for?

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Nailsandthesea · 28/03/2023 12:32

With no children - all of it back. The court will seek to put you back in the same position.

LemonTT · 28/03/2023 13:01

The marriage is short but the division of assets will be based on the length of the relationship. There would be significant difference between a couple who were together for 20 years and one who met and married after 20 weeks.

millymollymoomoo · 28/03/2023 18:03

Courts would generally try to get you back to position you were in when you married unless you gave children and cohabited a long time prior

Deathbyfluffy · 28/03/2023 18:05

Aim to be put back where you started - I can’t see anything being more fair than that.

Fluffodils · 28/03/2023 18:06

Nailsandthesea · 28/03/2023 12:32

With no children - all of it back. The court will seek to put you back in the same position.

Yes this

Fueledbycoffee · 28/03/2023 19:03

Should be fairly straightforward and your solicitor will seek to get you back what you put in. When I divorced after a year or so, we were renting - I was able to maintain rent on my own and kept all the furnishings we had jointly purchased. Ex had cleared the joint account so my solicitor agreed to let him keep the cash if I kept the contents. It's just a case of coming to an agreement that is fair for you both.

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SwiftKoala · 28/03/2023 21:26

Thanks all. By 'back to pre marriage', does that mean before the relationship or before marriage itself? We bought the house (with my money as the deposit as I said) a couple of years before marrying.

Hoping to avoid a solicitor- it is a small deposit and there is limited 'cash' as such so fees would eat a chunk of it up.

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LemonTT · 29/03/2023 12:05

What really matters here is the length of the relationship. If you were living together before you married then this is considered.

Married 2 years and living together for 20 years means you have been in a long relationship. It won’t be as simple as putting you back to how you were before you married. Because during that time you will have made decisions as a couple which impact on your current finances.

Nailsandthesea · 29/03/2023 13:54

SwiftKoala · 28/03/2023 21:26

Thanks all. By 'back to pre marriage', does that mean before the relationship or before marriage itself? We bought the house (with my money as the deposit as I said) a couple of years before marrying.

Hoping to avoid a solicitor- it is a small deposit and there is limited 'cash' as such so fees would eat a chunk of it up.

It will be sell the house or you buy him out but all of your deposit back and if the house has gone up 10K you will get the house and maybe pay him 3K if he paid half the mortgage

literally your money - they might even give you the whole house argument that he might have paid more in rent etc

m start at 100% in that situation - all mine and no access to pension.

did he earn more?

Nailsandthesea · 29/03/2023 13:55

Umm don’t know depends what contributions he made

MintMa · 29/03/2023 14:48

How long were you together?

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