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Moving into rented and leaving family home

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OnMyOwnSoSad · 26/03/2023 17:23

There is history to this on other threads of mine, but after another row this afternoon I know the man I fell in love with is gone and I need to leave for my own sanity.

I've had legal advice which was that if I move into rented I need to get something in the same league as I would get after the main home is sold. The rents are sky high and I can't afford that. The advice then has been to stay put while the separation progresses. He's turned nasty and I can't see that I can stay and he won't go.

To put it in perspective we jointly own the house, no mortgage. If we sold I could get a nice 3 bed semi with the proceeds. Renting I can get a 2 bed flat. Has anyone else been given the advice that they should rent the same type of property they want after the split?

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2022NewTimes · 26/03/2023 18:29

Are you married and how long have you been together ? Are you on the deeds of the house ?

OnMyOwnSoSad · 26/03/2023 18:33

Married 20 years, together 30 years. Name is on the deeds of the house. We jointly own it. I'm despairing at the idea of staying, it would be awful.

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2022NewTimes · 26/03/2023 18:41

I moved out from a big house to a 2 bed house as only wanted to rent the space as we needed - when house sold 50/50 to each of us.....

You do not have to rent the same size property

OnMyOwnSoSad · 26/03/2023 18:48

2022NewTimes · 26/03/2023 18:41

I moved out from a big house to a 2 bed house as only wanted to rent the space as we needed - when house sold 50/50 to each of us.....

You do not have to rent the same size property

Thank you- that gives me hope. I hope you are doing well now. I'm in pieces here.

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QuillBill · 26/03/2023 18:55

I agree, renting the same size property doesn't matter in the long run. Rent something available and geographically convenient at the moment. Flowers

GiltEdges · 26/03/2023 18:57

2022NewTimes · 26/03/2023 18:41

I moved out from a big house to a 2 bed house as only wanted to rent the space as we needed - when house sold 50/50 to each of us.....

You do not have to rent the same size property

I don't have direct experience of this, but my MIL and FIL have just concluded a 5 year divorce process.

MIL moved out of the family home on day one 5 years ago and into a rental property owned by BIL. She didn't pay him any rent at all for 5 years, as she doesn't work and couldn't afford to. The financial settlement ultimately went to court and she walked away with 50% of the value of the family home plus half of FILs pensions.

YellowDots · 26/03/2023 19:00

The financial settlement ultimately went to court and she walked away with 50% of the value of the family home plus half of FILs

That's great. Imagine how unfair it would have been if she hadn't got half of her own home or her husband's pension.

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