Hi,
2nd post from me today.
Anyway, our eldest child (19) lives with us both and splits his time between us. He is going to university in September (currently on a gap year). Youngest (14) lives with me with the occasional night at her dad’s (2 nights so far this year).
Stbx has less income than me and when we separated (and he moved out) he didn’t give me a penny towards the children (when they were both residing with me). Two years on and my new solicitor has made me apply for CMS which has come back saying he should pay £400 a month for the younger child until she is 18. So, only 3 years. However, apparently he can’t afford it as he has took semi retirement at work. However, I am paying for everything. I think he is saying all sorts to our eldest child as he is becoming more and more subdued. He asked me to withdraw the claim for CMS. I’ve had to pick him up tonight as he called and asked me to pick him up from his dad’s place. He is very quiet. The first CMS payment is due in a week or two.
I have protected both children from the divorce as much as I can. I certainly don’t discuss financial issues in front of them.
I am worried about the eldest. He has his whole life ahead of him. He got A*’s in all of his A-levels and has accepted a place at a red brick university. I don’t want his life messed up by all of this.
Stbx hasn’t spoken to me in 2 years.
Should I ask the eldest to move back in with me until he goes to university in September? He said it isn’t his dad upsetting him this time. Maybe it’s a girl or something but it seems strange he wanted me to pick him up.