Complete panic has set in about the future

[curlychocs]

My DH has left me 3 weeks and has finally admitted feelings for someone else after I tried for 6 months to save our marriage after he told me he no longer loved me. I am trying to have no contact with him except about kids. However panic is setting in about the future and I just want him to change his mind and come back. Rationally I know this is not going to happen. I also know he is not the person I thought he was and as I am his second marriage, he is unlikely to change.

Has anyone else been through this? How do you manage? We have not had any big conversations yet about how things are going to be settled. I'm not ready to. Any advice please on dealing with all of this.

@curlychocs

I am going through a divorce but my circumstances are not the same. I just wanted to offer my sympathies.

Divorce/separation is the worst time ever. Three weeks is very very early days.

There are two main issues that have to be dealt with, the emotional and the financial. It seems from your post and question that it is the emotional future you are asking about.

Im sorry to say, but in my experience time is the only thing that helps. If the financial side of things isn’t a worry, then maybe you just need to hunker down and get through day by day, until you feel a bit stronger. A good solicitor can be a great help. I personally have found private therapy a life saver as well as a few good friends to lean on.

But as I said three weeks is very early days, so don’t expect to be getting to grips with it yet. Maybe someone else will come along and tell you about their direct experience.

Look at other threads which deal with your situation, there’s a lot out there I’m sorry to say.

Wishing you all the best.