Hi,
I'm currently 3 years into a messy divorce.
He was abusive, took drugs, had affairs etc..
Covid saved our lives as I could cut all contact and not let him traumatise me or the kids any further.
Bit of back story - I didn't do mediation because of the abuse, we should have been to court, it's been postponed, he's not filled in the documents properly, everything I've given in had been questioned.
I've nothing to hide about anything in my life then and now, it's all been laid bare for my solicitor.
So today I get a call from the solicitor. He's basically saying (through his solicitor) that unless I agree him access to the kids he's not willing to agree any finances ( he still lives in the family home - I fled) if I don't he's taking me to court for a child arrangement order.
I'm just so lost and fed up, how is this even allowed?? Are finances and custody not supposed to be kept seperate? And why are my solicitors allowing him to just continue his abuse but now through the legal system.
Thanks if you've got this far, it's just all really got to me today