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Should I break up?

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Teddy1919 · 18/03/2023 10:03

My partner of eight years has been liking pictures of another women's really posey picture. Bum basically out and boobs of course. I found out just the other day he had been seeing her when he met me and then called it off with her to be with me. I had no idea this had happened until just a few days ago. For the whole time we have been together he has been liking a lot of pictures of her which I know sounds pretty of me but I can't help but feel hurt. It's not even normal pictures, she is constantly posting with basically nothing on. I'm not against what pictures she posts, that's her thing and I'm not actually annoyed at her. It's my partner I'm annoyed with. Is it just me or would anyone else feel hurt by this? I'm thinking of ending the relationship over it. I have confronted him and he actually agrees he has been disrespectful. What would everyone else do I don't know if I'm being over the top or if I'm totally right to break up over this?

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Teddy1919 · 18/03/2023 10:04

Teddy1919 · 18/03/2023 10:03

My partner of eight years has been liking pictures of another women's really posey picture. Bum basically out and boobs of course. I found out just the other day he had been seeing her when he met me and then called it off with her to be with me. I had no idea this had happened until just a few days ago. For the whole time we have been together he has been liking a lot of pictures of her which I know sounds pretty of me but I can't help but feel hurt. It's not even normal pictures, she is constantly posting with basically nothing on. I'm not against what pictures she posts, that's her thing and I'm not actually annoyed at her. It's my partner I'm annoyed with. Is it just me or would anyone else feel hurt by this? I'm thinking of ending the relationship over it. I have confronted him and he actually agrees he has been disrespectful. What would everyone else do I don't know if I'm being over the top or if I'm totally right to break up over this?

I meant petty not pretty

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Teddy1919 · 18/03/2023 10:05

I have a four year old with him so I feel really betrayed 😔

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HeadacheEarthquake · 18/03/2023 10:08

You either trust him or you don't.

SettleDoon · 18/03/2023 10:10

It depends on whether you can live with the clear evidence that he still has a bit of a thing for her. What will he do now to put your mind at ease? Block her? If not, I would move on.

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Teddy1919 · 18/03/2023 19:13

Probably not as there's a few other things that have happened with other girls. No cheating but disrespectful to me😔 God knows if he has actually cheated I wouldnt put it past him

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Teddy1919 · 18/03/2023 19:14

I've looked and he is still following her on Instagram and friends on Facebook. I don't want to have to tell him to block he should do that without me asking

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teomama · 18/03/2023 19:39

Hey, obviously that’s a very personal decision - only you know what the overall picture of your relationship is aside from these picture likes! But I’d most definitely let him know he’s crossing my boundaries. Don’t let him gaslight you and explain it’s just a picture.

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Teddy1919 · 18/03/2023 20:18

Thank you for your reply. He has actually said that he agrees with why I'm upset but then on the other hand is saying it's just a like on a picture so it's like he's agreeing but not. I know this all sounds petty but I remember when we were first together and he said he doesn't see the point to change his Facebook status to relationship and will keep it as single. He puts pictures of is together on Facebook so I have no idea why he used to say that. It still says single to this day it's really odd. When I question him about it he says you know I've always had it like that I've explained that 🙄🥺

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teomama · 18/03/2023 20:43

I haven’t changed my status too on Facebook, and I don’t have one at all there I think…. And I’m in a very long, committed relationship. Sometimes I do like the pictures of some guys I used to date but trust me, no feelings there! Watch what he does next. If he continues to like the photos after you’ve shared your concern.

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Teddy1919 · 18/03/2023 20:54

Thank you x

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