Long-time lurker, never posted. After twenty-three years, my husband has asked for a divorce because he is unhappy. He has refused to go to couples' counselling, and is either ignoring me or being cruel. I should despise him, but instead feel a terrible sense of loss and sadness. Anyone who has been through this, do you have any advice on what I might do to get past this? I do have my work, but no children, family I can turn to, or friends. I realise now that I was so content in my marriage that I stupidly never looked to any one else for friendship, and have only now realised how isolated I have become. How do I move forward when I feel paralysed by fear and sadness? Any suggestions welcome.