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Struggling

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whatsoccuringnow · 11/03/2023 23:47

Just finding it so hard. I left 8 month's ago because of various reasons, mostly misery, his alcohol/drug abuse, verbal abuse, staying in bed whenever not working or drinking and overall never present or interested in me or children. I'm stuck living right beside him, which has been helpful transition for the kids but very hard for me.

I work in a job supporting traumatised people.

I'm so lonely. Its my birthday tomorrow and other than my parents no one has remembered. I'm overweight. He's moved on, is living in our family home and having a great time with his new partner who has met our kids and they are off on a 5 star holiday soon.

It's still better than it was being with him, but the courts are so slow and fuck this. I feel ill never be free.

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DustyLee123 · 12/03/2023 08:06

How long till his new partner gets sick of him too ?
Just keep going, and Happy Birthday 🎂🥳🎁

CarrieSmisher · 12/03/2023 08:34

You will be free OP. This is the worst bit. All the practical stuff. Honestly, if people knew the reality of how hard and stressful a divorce is, everyone would be too scared to do it. But this bit will be worth it, you'll come out the other end and you'll be happy. It's there, you'll get it.
Happy birthday, this will be your last sad birthday.

Jas683 · 12/03/2023 09:17

Hi...

You are facing your first birthday alone, it's one of the milestones we have to get through. You will be different next year, you can make it what you want. It was my birthday last week and felt exactly the same, couldn't reason with my feelings as I like this occasion to be very low key but it was a reminder of the fact that apart from my adult children I really have nobody who REALLY gives a shit, this is a reflection on me and where I have put myself I think lol.

Try not to compare lifestyles but again very difficult not to do. 5 star holidays are lovely but is a temporary period of creating happiness.

Anyway HAPPY BIRTHDAY 🎈 you will get through the day and move in. All the best.

Fourmagpies · 12/03/2023 10:57

Happy birthday 🎂 🥳

It will honestly get better. Keep reminding yourself one day you will be free of him. Is there something you can do today for yourself to help you feel better? A walk, go for a coffee, paint your nails, read a book?

Pixiedust1234 · 12/03/2023 11:02

Happy Birthday! Go and buy yourself a cake, or jelly and ice cream, or flowers. Treat yourself to a little something Flowers

What you are going through is my biggest fear but it seems most women have to do this if they want to be free. Consider it short term pain for long term gain 💕

whatsoccuringnow · 12/03/2023 20:07

Thanks everyone, I got through it and on the plus side, it was peaceful not having him around!

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