Recommendations needed for good solicitor, divorcing narcissist

[Mooninleo]

Hi

My narcissist husband walked out on me for his mistress in the New Year, after a 31 year marriage and being together for even longer.

I live in the Cambridge area, but I understand that these days you don't need to be in the same area.

My husband is very clever and runs rings around me. He already has siphoned off money and set up separate accounts, amongst other things. So I need a clever solicitor who can stand up to a bully.

This is a high net worth divorce.

Thanks for your time.

I’d recommend local

i really benefited from two face to face o has with my sol

ask friends locally to keep an ear out

The best solicitor is the one you will listen to. A lot depends on how you feel about dealing with things directly or whether you want the solicitor to do it all. Because it’s very much a process mill of steps to go through that only become confrontational if people make it so and decide to aggressively push for unrealistic outcomes. Unfortunately , if the other party decides to be a twat you will be stuck with dealing with it.

A bully is likely to try to unsettle you with daft demands and offers. A decent solicitor can deal with all of those but it is expensive. Sometimes people decide they can write the letter saying, no for the nth time. This is best left to someone who can be dispassionate as the bully will be trying to provoke all the time. Just to wear you down.

In your case good money will be needed for a forensic accountant and a barrister.

Final point, the divorce is never going to give you revenge or any recourse for the hurt he has caused. It is intended to sever your relationship and provide you a fair share of the assets so you can start your life over. It’s always a good idea to have a vision of what that life will be. That is what you should be working towards.

Listen to the podcast divorcing a narcissist the lure the loss and the law
by Supriya Mckenna

maybe you can contact her and ask for recommendations

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