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Divorce/separation

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I did it, I left the family home 4 weeks ago..

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Gemski38 · 06/03/2023 14:48

So after a night of sarcastic remarks, being called "controlling, the whole marriage has been about you gem, your a control freak" etc etc
I got up, in my pyjamas, grabbed my laptop and left. He didnt ring to check on me, ask if I was ok. The following day after threatening to keep our son, he dropped him to me so he could go out drinking with his mates 🙄

A week of him not caring, with the odd comments of "if your horny let me know" when i was crying and clearly struggling, he is now saying he wants to get back and work it out, however doesn't think he was abusive at all, and its ME who's abused him.

I am going between feeling good, but then feeling really low and sad 😢He is pushing me to either move back and try again or get divorced. He wont allow time to just be separated, i feel this is because he is itching to date already.

He has done good job on my mental health, as in i feel the one in the wrong. My self confidence is in the gutter and my self worth is zero. I feel like I've left a good marriage go and i have been stupid..

Any tips to get through this? Should i go no contact and apply for the divorce already? Will it get easier? I feel horrendous but i know its early days yet xxx

OP posts:
Jas683 · 06/03/2023 15:45

Hi.....

It's really early days so go with the flow about the way you feel. Feel every good and bad moment and you will get through this.

I'm 7.5 months into leaving a long marriage and I am feeling more stuff now then the first few months.
Look after yourself and be kind to you. It will get better, I found no contact the only way to go but I have no young children. You just need to follow your heart and the practicalities of the situation.
Good luck and keep telling yourself it will be fine but will take a while.

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