If a relative dies while you are separated from your spouse....

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...does your spouse have a claim on the inheritance left by that relative?

I’m going to go right back to my original question: if your dad owns his house, and you’re likely to inherit from him, is he able to help pay for the divorce/solicitors?

Yes, so go through with the divorce now while you don't have a house for him to go after and make sure its a clean break order. Get as much evidence as possible of debts occurring after you've split.

He won’t
he’s upset with me as well as glad to have me back
This whole thing has damaged our relationship somewhat

I need to get it sorted with waived fees and legal aid just like my family court case

He will not get any access to your daughter, I have no idea why you can't understand this. He is not her father. Abs after only a years marriage no court would entertain this.

Can I ask are you very young, or not originally from the UK?

No and no
I’m just out of five years of coercive control and sexual abuse and let myself bee Ed coerced into a legal contact I didn’t understand

he was in her life for five years

he’s applied to court

A court IS entertaining this

He can apply all he likes, they will laugh at him.

Is your daughter also a non UK citizen too or was she born here snd where is her real father?

How old is your DD and does she want to see your Ex?

Anyone can apply for a contact order only those with parental responsibility are likely to succeed.

we are uk citizens I’m just hysterical and scared

real dad is a petty criminal (unplanned pregnancy) and uninterested

well, my solicitor says he has a chance

but I like your view better!
no she doesn’t because unfortunately to my shame she picked up on his controlling behaviour and is doing her own police statement about his treatment of her

im aware I’ve failed her I really am

but you know what, we’re actually fine

despite highlighting my obvious idiocy you’ve made me feel better

mall I care shot is us being left alone and then we can enjoy our lives

she’s only 6
so he’s been in her life since very young
he was controlling from day one but I was quickly under the impression I couldn’t get out

I’m very ashamed of myself believe me

but our future without him is bright

our hearing is actually only to prove my abuse claims but I do wonder why even bother
a waste of court time I would assume but this is what leads me to believe he has a chance

Typos because of phone autocorrect

This is the most bizarre thread of the weekend.

He won’t get access, by applying he is STILL attempting to use coercive control!

Why on earth are you even entertaining any form of child maintenance?

Divorce his arse and cut all ties.

The issue of the inherited house is irrelevant. A million and one things could happen between now that that even happening.

Mostly though please seek help for your anxiety, it’s not good for you or your daughter.

Take care OP

My reply was to you as asked

no I’m not very young
no I’m not not originally from the uk

Well I never indicated I wanted any maintenance

I’ve got medication yes
i need it

because solicitors and one social worker I know told me it all depends on the judge and they cannot promise he won’t get any contact

i know it’s a continuation of abuse
it’s working

This is my life
it’s a bizarre thread to you but it’s my reality

My daughter hasn’t seen my anxiety
I’m absorbing everything
I cried during school hours for two month’s processing five years of sexual abuse then got his court application

I’ve been okay the past month but still spend hours online reading experiences and trying to gain insight into how to deflect this

my solicitor could have said what you have
why didn’t she?

It is abuse, they cannot guarantee he won't get contact but it is very unlikely especially if your DD doesn't want to see him.

Thank you x

You can make a divorce application and apply for a fee waiver which will be 100% if your income is only Universal Credit.

www.gov.uk/government/publications/apply-for-help-with-court-and-tribunal-fees/how-to-apply-for-help-with-fees-ex160a

If you have no money and shared assets then just fill in the forms for divorce online .

www.gov.uk/divorce/file-for-divorce

Sorted.

Thanks I’ve done that

we have no money and no assets but he won’t agree anyway

how would I get a clean break order if he would say no?

If you currently have no assets then a judge would ultimately sign off the order if you can't agree.

Have you spoken to Women's Aid to see if they can recommend a solicitor? In abuse cases I believe you can still get legal aid.

Thanks
i will have a look once the child arrangements case is over as I have legal aid for that
got to wait until September now I’ve initiated divorce after the cooling off period

This. And speak to a solicitor

Not everyone can
they cost hundreds and I’m waiting for my pay now with £1 in my bank

@RandomMess @FuchsAndMöhr You both made me feel better last night.

Here's the thing though. I'm living this and of course I'm going to have high anxiety.

I'm the one in contact with many women in the exact same position and just spoken to one lady in Scotland who has already had to facilitate contact with her husband who was in her youngest child's life for only three years, mine was in my daughter's for five.

This is areal risk and even though I've obviously got help for my anxiety the only thing that will help is this being over, and it could be that it's never over. You're blaze and I wish I had the space to be the same as you but I can't as my child is in clear and present danger.

I'm hysterical as need be on here because in the courtroom I won't have that luxury. Thank you for listening. You'd be as if not more hysterical than me in the same position. I've held down a lot while this is going on and I'm damn proud of myself for that.

Does your DD express any wish to see him?