50/50 order and holiday arrangements

[motheroreily]

Hello. I wanted to get some advice.
Our current order is vague about the holidays. It says the normal 50/50 pattern continues unless a parent is on annual leave.
This is causing conflict. I had annual leave at half term and planned to visit family
when I told my ex he suddenly booked annual leave for his days and then wouldn't let me see the child.

Our orders says christmas day and the holidays are split. But it doesn't define this. At Christmas my ex said I could collect at 1 pm christmas day and the child was with him all Xmas eve too but then had to return early on boxing day so the time with my child was limited.

I know it seems petty but I have to keep backing down to him as he won't listen to me. It makes it difficult to make plans and he interprets the order to suit himsel. I feel it needs to be much more black and white. Defining the days and times for holiday arrangements.

Please could anyone share their arrangements.

The order I have will be slightly different to yours, because it sounds like you have a shared care order? Mine is a “lives with” order.

However, it prescribes exactly what happens during the holidays, birthdays, Mothers’ Day and Fathers’ Day.

For Christmas it defines an alternating annual arrangement:
(1) From Xmas Eve 5pm until Xmas Day 2pm;
(2) 2pm Xmas Day until Boxing Day 5pm.

Everything is nailed down to avoid any ambiguity. However……….

I still find my ex attempts to interpret the order to benefit them when what it says doesn’t suit what they want to happen, i.e. when they “lose” some of their time.

Even when it’s written down to avoid the argument, there always seems to be one. 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

You may have to take it back to court to have it more specifically defined. Very frustrating when there isn't reasonable compromise

Thank you for your replies. I know it seems petty but the only way I can get it sorted (other than doing what he wants) is to have the order changed.