Hi! First time ever posting. . . I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed. I've decided to separate from my husband; we have two kids. He's been abusive for all of marriage and I can see how my son is copying his behaviour and attitude towards me. It's breaking my heart. I've had enough. I have mixed emotions - I'm ready for the abuse to stop but I'm so disappointed and heartbroken and I can't believe this is happening to me and my kids.
My oldest adores his dad but I can't put him through what his dad is doing. He's been physically, verbally, financially abusive towards me (not the kids). I've never involved the police and only one friend knows. I'd rather separate amicably without involving police, courts, etc.
I've been a stay at home for over the last 5 years so I have 0 finances. I wish I could stay in the house we currently rent and my husband would move out but he won't have it. Even if that would be the most beneficial for the kids.
We haven't had much of a chat as he's refusing to talk to me. But I managed to tell him that I wanted to leave so he's closed off. . . So at the moment we can't have a civil conversation and plan arrangements about housing or the kids but I don't want to wait for him to come around because it may be a while. . .
How can I get the whole processed started? I've looked online but feeling rather overwhelmed. For the meantime, I need to sort out housing and finances to be independent. Where can I go to?
I appreciate all the comments - thank you.