At my wits end! Any help at all would be appreciated...Here's my situation:
Married 12 years separated 2.5 - 2 kids (11 and 14) - DH came to the marriage with nothing - I had developed several properties so had the deposit for a house - a couple of months after marriage we bought a 2nd rental property (with equity brought by me) which we had to sell in order for him to have somewhere to live when he moved out - I bought him a 3 bedroom property so the kids could stay (this is in my name as a btl) - I have stayed in family home and have made a business out of it (renting rooms etc.) which constitutes approx 60 percent of my income - I also work as self employed doing anything paid and am on UC- He earns c. 10-20k more than me - pensions similiar - I have added value to both properties since he left, but he has been paying into the mortgages for both - I have health issues (Mental health and Arthritis everywhere due to chemo) - He has a lovely mum who I am close to but has dementia and has been very close to end of life care (he will inherit significantly to the same amount as our marital estate) - I have done all the work in terms of doing properties up - we have the kids 50:50 atm although both say that they want to live with me as their dad doesn't do much with them.
Equity in the home I live in currently is approx twice as much as in his house. He is currently saying that I should move out of the family home as I can't afford it (Although he is now not paying anything into the mortgage and I can just about manage) - so that he can buy a better house and we would have 'parity of accommodation' - he's asking for 50:50. The bottom line is that I will not get a significant mortgage at this point, so I wouldn't have a home at all if he gets what he wants. Does anyone know where I stand legally and which of the above are viable arguments in court? Thank you