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Divorce/separation

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offtherecord · 19/02/2023 20:34

hi, i am a disabled person, i moved house with my husband of 9 years together for 20 plus years, after the house move and only a few weeks to, he left within a couple of weeks he was with another woman but found she has been on the scene for years. he plastered all over some social media that he was in the relationship with her before he left me.
he applied for no fault divorce, i have no money to fight it or even negociate, he is a very controlling man in every way. he has taken some bills and a large sum of money from my account without my knowledge or consent. he is manipulating the solicitors from every angle to suit himself of course, he has been threatening towards me if i do not sign for a no fault divorce, i have no money he hasnt given me anything to live on for the past 6 months either, i have some benefits. i have been everywhere to get some help without success. what will happen to me, as i cannot work either, will he take the house from under me as i cant pay the mortgage, he has removed his name from all utilities and moved them into his bank account i don't know if they are being paid or not i know there is a sum of money outstanding on one of them, i feel he planned all of this for his own advantage, i am now isolated from my family miles away.
i want to get out of this marriage but i dont see how as i do not have any money.
he really has a horrible nature about him he has to get everything his way.
i trusted his words to me he has put me in such a difficult position now where as had we not have moved house i could have afforded the last house.

he has been seeing this woman for over 6 years, she has been watching our every move which i find is sick, to say the least. he is a complete liar how do i negociate with a liar.
any advice would be welcome

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Transcriber · 19/02/2023 20:42

I'm sorry you're going through such a bad time.
Would you not be entitled to legal aid? Most solicitors offer a free initial consultation and would be able to offer best advice of how to proceed.
In the meantime, make sure you are receiving all the assustance/benefits you're entitled to - maybe make an appt with Citizen Advice who'll point you in the right direction.

millymollymoomoo · 19/02/2023 22:02

You can’t contest or stop the divorce

you can ensure you get a fair financial settlement based on the assets available

ideally you should see a solicitor to get an idea about your circumstances

you can do a lot of things yourself by educating yourself and completing your own forms - Google, go to library, etc
many people self represent now and only pay for limited legal advice along the way

Argh1 · 18/01/2024 10:47

OP if you are still around please contact women’s aid, this reeks of coercive control and financial abuse.
You might be able to involve the police or get legal aid for those matters then.

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