Pension is this fair?

[Goldandpurplezebra]

Things are amicable with my STBXH and I'd like to keep it that way. I don't want to get petty about every little tiny detail of splitting our finances. I don't have the energy for it.

To cut the confusion of sorting our pensions, how about I just ask for £4800 from his pension pot to mine. That's based on 24 months of maternity leave that I was on during our marriage, so 24
X £200 which is a generous estimate of what he pays into his pension each month.

Married 8 years. Children 6 and 2.

Do you think him working full time will affect his relationship with his children. OP, lots of single parents have to work full time. You're starting to sound a bit entitled and grabby tbh.

So if it was reversed and the kids were with me EOW and one week night and DH worked full time yes I do think it would affect their relationship. I think it would affect the kids development. I think it's important for young kids to have at least one parent around the play with them, interact with them, read to them.

I think that the ideal is that the main care giver works part time so they have enough parental input.

Yeah I do actually feel grabby because I'm scared. I'm scared about running a house with two children on £29000 while he will be running a smaller house (since kids can share a bedroom since they won't be there as much) and he'll be on £48,000.

I'm not acting on anything I'm talking through here. So even if I sound grabby it doesn't mean I am being grabby. I'm just trying to think of everything so I can make informed decisions on what's best for us.

If I don't think about my finances no one will. My ex certainly won't! Of course I'm not only thinking about my finances. I'm thinking about what's best for my kids.

I consider what's best for me and I consider what's best for my kids.
My ex thinks about what's best for him.

You'll be surprised at what you might be entitled to in terms of UC if you do an online calculator