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When to tell 4 year old about separation?

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DecommissionedVag · 10/02/2023 12:10

Husband and I are getting divorced. We decided that we were going to split at the beginning of December, but he's still been living here whilst he organised new living accommodation. He's finally managed to find somewhere suitable to rent and will move in on 3rd/4th March.

We have a 4yo DD who doesn't have a clue that there's anything amiss. Husband and I have slept in separate bedrooms for a couple of years now and we're still on good terms. As far as our DD is concerned nothing has changed.

We're struggling to decide when to tell her that we're separating. We haven't told, her yet because we didn't want to give her too long to dwell on it and potentially build up anxiety about the situation. But at the same time we don't want to drop the bombshell, without giving her time to process the news before her Dad moves out. We can't decide whether to tell her next weekend (he's away for work Mon-Fri next week) or the following weekend (i.e. the week before he moves out).

Does anyone have any experience of this, or can anyone offer any advice on when you think it's best to break the news?

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DecommissionedVag · 10/02/2023 14:06

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mycatsanutter · 10/02/2023 14:19

How far away will he be and how often will he see her ? Does he work away a lot anyway ?

DecommissionedVag · 10/02/2023 14:31

mycatsanutter · 10/02/2023 14:19

How far away will he be and how often will he see her ? Does he work away a lot anyway ?

He'll be living a 5min drive away and we plan to build up to a 50/50 arrangement once he's settled. He doesn't work away a lot. Usually 1-2 nights per month, if that.

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