hi im trying to divorce a narcisist, for a while now, he left me though not long after he promised the earth and more so much so we moved house, taken on a bigger mortgage then bang within weeks he makes up an argument then uses that as his excuse to leave, im not so bothered he has gone but ive since been told he has been seeing a woman for years now. so all this move was planned to put me in the most difficult position ever.
He controlled everything i am in contact with many organisations but i need help with the coping with him side through solicitors etc, he jhas decided everything so far i am not well so cannot work, i have no family and are so far away from friends now, he has blackened my name overall, with everyone.
i am not fully aware of the outcome i face we own the house together but i have no money to pay for the solicitors and he keeps moving the goal posts evertime oi try make a decision or a compromise, the police are aware of things he has done now and in the past i have been so foolish to believe him in the first place, he moves the goalposts so i have to keep responding and paying all over again.
although i am in to with these organisations they are limited to the help they can give. i feel utterly helpless.
The lies he has told you, couldnt make them up he controls all the payments from the house, a good thing you may think but hell it isn't its so if i don't do what he demands he will send them back umpaid he has stolen money out of my account, he wants to get in the house, i am terrified of him, i am alone and with mobility issues to boot.
i have laid out a few suggestions he has all his clothes computers personnal stuff but demands more items which i am ok with some of them but i suggest taking them to somewhere he can collect from or outside the house, nothing is good enough, the lists he has given changes with the weather. i know he wants a reaction from me he hasn't got any, i want no contact with him at all, he manipulates everyone and everything he comes close to, i don't feel like i have any choices, he wants me dead so he can have everything for himself. can someone guide me, please don't suggest any organisations i have been to them all. i am getting a place where i am thinking i would be better of dead.
He planned all of this, i have no feelings of him with another woman, none what so ever. so i am not in any way jealous, im grateful but i am entitled to a home to live in but he wants me out of that to.