Supporting children through separation

[Tristy5]

I would be so grateful if someone could offer me some guidance on supporting my kids through a fairly amicable separation. We told the kids last week, they cried for hours afterwards and then seemed to rally a bit. Tonight my youngest (age 9) was crying in his bed but refusing to admit that anything was wrong. I am just so heartbroken and feel overwhelming guilt that we are putting them through this. We’ve reassured them that it’s not their fault, that it’s ok to feel sad and that we both love them immensely. How can I ease their pain?

You cant
and hard as it is you probably shouldnt
they are simply going through grieving process

yiu can support them through it, reassure them, love them, reconfirm that their feelings are fine and normal etc.but they should be allowed to get sad/angry/unsure/ whatever and come out of it in their own time. Otherwise your guilt will make them think they have to act ok all the time

I will be going through the same soon, we will tell our kids when STBXH has somewhere to move out to. I'm sorry you're going through this too. My kids are 8 & 13, telling them is going to be the worst part I think.

It will get better when you’re living apart and the kids get into the new routine.