Does a divorce get any easier?

[catie654]

I'm sorry in advance but I just need to talk/rant. I left my husband 3 months ago due to domestics abuse, we have 2 little kids (DD3 and DS2) and they were picking up on his nasty behaviour so I had to leave. He refused to leave the house (shared 50/50 mortgage) so I moved me and the kids out and he kept everything including the family car. I didn't take much with me as I didn't have time. He just gets nastier every time I see him. I hate the fact the kids have to see him, there's no court order, but I felt safe enough to let him have the kids every other weekend when he has his child from a previous relationship.
Today I arranged with him to get some of my clothes from the house and some of the kids stuff, he physically assaulted me, my friend witnessed it and called the police, we both have statements and they've just rang and told me they're taking no further action. I'm devastated. I really don't want to let him have the children next weekend, they don't particularly want to go to his most of the time anyway.
I'm going to speak to my solicitor first thing in the morning. I just know what else to do. I don't want to go to sleep incase he turns up. He's been released with no bail

This sounds awful and very frightening for you. If he turns up, don't open the door and don't engage with him. If he rings, don't answer the phone. If he doesn't leave, ring the police. If you're going out and about, make sure you have your phone charged and with you. Stick to main roads if walking. If he approaches you, go into a shop or cafe etc, or ring the police.
Tomorrow, call the national Centre for domestic violence and ask about a non molestation order. They can support.
In relation to contact.. you can stop contact if you believe the children would be at risk in his care. This is called exercising your parental responsibility. He would need to seek legal advice to get contact in place. Please do only do this if you genuinely believe the children are unsafe with him.

Also, make sure your windows and doors are locked, and try to avoid having to see him or soend time with him. Do you have a male relative who can help you with collecting any other items? Suggest hes a bully who would not be aggressive to your brother etc!

@Zola1 thank you for the advice, all windows and doors are locked... I'm sleeping on the sofa tonight now. If I can even get to sleep.
My dad and my best friends husband were outside so only saw when he threw me out the house and locked the door. He resisted arrest as well which didn't help.
I don't know what he will do, he's unpredictable and I'm scared if he has the children he won't let them come back as he now knows he's lost the control of me. He wouldn't physically hurt them, but he would psychologically

OP if you post in Relationships you'll get a lot more support and info there doesn't seem to be much traffic on this thread - how are things today?

@Zola1 has good advice - I used the www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk and they were excellent, better than Women's Aid (easier to get through to etc). I'd also recommend ringing the police again and asking to be put in touch with a domestic violence liaison officer as it sounds like the police didn't do their job the other day - have you asked your solicitor about an Occupation Order so you could get back into the house and get him out? I think you'd meet the threshold.