Hi all,
Think I just want to vent as I am so angry. Maybe I am being unreasonable but I can't help but be upset as I have had a really upset child today.
I am full time parent of my son, he goes to his dad's every other weekend and one night during the week. Previous, two times when my son has had Covid the dad has refused to have him as normal - upsetting my son a lot. His reasoning; he has his wife's parents living next door who are vulnerable (they have an adjoining house with a door that links) and last year, his wife was pregnant. He refused to have our son at all, even though A. his wife HAD COVID TOO AND HE CAUGHT IT FROM THEM/AT THESAME TIME?? and B. the vulnerable in-laws could just stay in their house, it's a separate house??? So, last year I needed to take a lot of unpaid leave to look after him, all whilst he was working from home getting paid and when he could have helped look after him too. Let me repeat - they had Covid in his house anyway!!??
So, fast forward a year to now and it's happened again. Our son has Covid, he is supposed to go to his dad's tonight but the dad is refusing again!! Now because he has a baby in the house and the vulnerable in-laws still....who are in the house next door.....still.
I find it so upsetting as he always seems to put himself and his familly over there, before our son (numerous other things have happened over the years, like him not having our son pre Covid just because he had a cold and he didn't want his wife catching it!!?). I am the one who has to deal with the tears and try and explain why his dad is saying no again? Even our son doesn't understand why he can't go over. I don't get why he's allowed to just pick and choose when he has him but more importantly, it brakes me heart to see our son so upset :(
Luckily my husband will look after him on Friday so I can at least go in to work on Friday. Honestly, my husband does so much more and pays for so much more. He finds it upsetting as our son idolises his dad as has no clue what he's really like and how much we have to mop up after him. But our son is only young and I keep telling my husband that as he gets older, he'll start realising.