Co-Parent constantly lying

[thethreemuskateers]

I split with my ex April 2021 he was having an affair with my good friend who lived next door.

She moved and he moved in with her and her two children. He didn’t tell me and said he was still living at his old house, I’d asked him to not involve our youngest as if was all very confusing. Youngest comes home and tells me he now sleeps there…

Moved on from that, my ex’s girlfriends children don’t speak to my ex as they blame him for there parents split and moving away from there friends.

My ex is fine with this said he doesn’t want any kind of relationship with his girlfriends kids. He’s called them awful names in the past. I find this bizarre. Social services are involved as kids Dad said they weren’t happy at home.

Our 4 year old sleeps downstairs in the dining room twice a week. He keeps saying he’s having nightmares. I spoke to my ex he denied this reckons he’s fine.

At the weekend he came home asking why the girlfriends kids don’t like him and that they tell him to go away and that he’s evil. Again ex denies there’s an issue.

The constant lies are ridiculous he lied saying he was at uni he’s not, lied about where he lives so understandably I don’t believe a word of what he says.

How can you co parent with someone like this, almost 2 years in and it doesn’t get any easier. I’m sure my ex and his girlfriend think I’m bitter but all I want is my son to be happy.

Your poor kid. He's sleeping in the dining room? He's obviously not happy at all and he's voicing his concerns. I'd take this further if I were you.

And also the fact that the OW's ex also got SS involved says a lot. I'd do the same if I were you.

Your 4 year old shouldn't be obligated to go to his dad's if he doesn't want to by the way (by the sounds of it, he doesn't want to).

Thank you, it’s absolutely draining ex is a narcissist, loves being in control.

My son is currently waiting for counselling recommended by school and awaiting an educational psychologist assessment possible ADHD.

The whole situation is a mess, there’s no court order in place so I’m thinking of going down the route of no overnight stays.

My ex is adamant our son is making it up.

Oh and the other woman is also a social worker! Even more worrying given moving in someone her children don’t like.