Hi all.
Sadly I've been reading threads and coming to a conclusion for about 3 years now.
After the trauma of losing one of our twins and our survivor being in Nicu for 3 months we kind of sleep walked through until December 2022 when I told him Finally I had enough. All the classics-I did all the housework and child's appointments all the cats vet appointments and so on. But I'm also the only one that an drive or use any form of tools. Recently I had to show him how to use filler. Alone these aren't issues that killed my love for him but his lack of willingness to support me where he could or to learn these skills did. Alongside 2 years of rejection sexually because he was 'too tired' or had a headache. But would then sort himself out. (I did all the laundry remember) whenever I asked about therapy before he refused until I told him I didn't love him anymore. It had to get there for me to have some kind of recognition from him.
We have been in our own rooms over a year now and have had therapy for almost a year. I know it will break DHs heart because he has been trying recently and this week painted all the new skirting in our lounge and just to add he is an incredible dad to our 4yo DS. But I don't have it. I don't love him enough to have this bland life anymore it's just too little too late.
I don't want to be his wife but I hate to think of losing him as a friend and making him an enemy.
For our DS I would love some practical advice and stories of how you managed it? I can't afford to buy him out and we both love our home so I was thinking seperation in the house or is that a no go? Advice of any kind re the home practicality would be gratefully recieved, the legal bit I know, thank you all x