Husband threatening me

[rabper]

I have had a very turbulent 5 year marriage. Husband very disrespectful since beginning. He had cheated on me multiple times and everytime I’d confront he’d deny and start manipulating the conversation, take it in a complete different direction.

At one point I started recording his conversations when I go out, caught him speaking to prostitutes (when I showed him audios he said I never went I only call). I had to stop doing it and left it how he was.

When he found I recorded his audios he started threatening me that he has got my videos that he’d leak. I knew he is bluffing but my heart just does not accept living with someone who can threaten me like this.

I just had a baby girl 2 months ago (unplannedg and have another sweet girl who is 3 years old. I just worry about them so much. Will they be ok? What if he abandons them??

I have a very good job and earn around £80,000 a year and looking to buy a house somewhere.

Is divorce really that bad? He is blackmailing me using children and saying that I am destroying their future.

Is it that bad?

So he's been an asshole from day one but ... two kids who will be stuck with him as their sire. I do not understand.

What's changed now to make you want to take action?

What a pointless post! You don't need to understand, what's done is done and the OP has now made the decision to leave. The reasons for that are her business, not yours. She doesn't have to explain herself.

Go to link above at top of header by MN, to ADVICE NOW
read their guides on divorce process, financial and custody processes, “fair settlement” rules etc
that will help you understand what the practical outcomes are likely to be

once, you have got used to that, it will lesson anxiety form the “unknown” and you’ll be in a better position to start divorce or not as you decide is best.

I think you need to get good legal advice about all that has been going on in the marriage. My concern is that the only thing illegal that has possibly happened is that you recorded him without his consent or knowledge. Sexual infidelity on either part has no bearing on divorce outcomes.

My advice is to proceed with the divorce without the confrontations and high drama. You don’t and never needed to give him a reason for the split.

Go to the women's abuse forum. More women (loads more) in similar situations to share their stories and offer some advice.
It's really bad and will only get worse.
He's abusive and you should start making plans to leave.